5 Ways to Create a Fresh Start for Your Family in 2020
by Kate Saffle
A year ago
What was 2019 like for you? If it was anything like mine, it was busy, full of transitions, and the day to day of life didn’t always align with our values. Perhaps you’re even leaving 2019 with a sense of disappointment and awareness of the passing of time. We can mourn for the way life went differently than we anticipated while also cultivating our hope in the coming future. As we enter a new decade we also have an invaluable opportunity to reimagine our family life and home. There is no perfect family or home, but you also know best what will serve your family and breathe life into your home in the years to come. Let’s dream big together and sow a tiny seed of inspiration and hope that will grow and blossom for your family in the decade to come.
Here are 5 ways to foster your fresh start and clean the slate for 2020:
1. Let Go of the Past
The decisions and events of the past represent who we were in a different period of life. It can be tempting to either look back longingly at the way things were or to feel regret for the way things should have been. When we allow our thoughts to remain focused on the past, we will then take action that creates more of the same. Do you really want to keep repeating the past? If you desire a fresh start and see that as possible for your family in 2020 and beyond, it’s so important to let go of past events, mistakes, hurts, and regrets. We all have the ability to imagine a new future and move consciously toward that instead.
2. (Physically) Clean the Slate
Our homes become a repository of ideas and items that represent who we were, but perhaps we are no longer those people. Additionally, you may be feeling cramped from holiday clutter (hello, new toys!) and craving some breathing room. This time of year is ideal for decluttering and donating unused items, organizing and deep cleaning. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:
- Clean all horizontal surfaces first. This creates visual calm and gives you near instant sense of simplicity and organization.
- Get rid of any objects that conjure up negative feelings of disappointment, loss, lack, or remind you of failed goals. For example, if you are hanging on to 5 year old exercise equipment that you used once, let it go and move on.
- Clean the air with fresh smelling essential oils, such as lemon or citrus, in a diffuser.
3. Imagine the Possibilities
So much is possible for our families if we believe it is. Spend some time journaling on the following questions and see what comes up for you:
- What family life and home do you see yourself growing into in 2020?
- How will it feel to live that way?
- What values will you prioritize in 2020 and the new decade?
When we align our thoughts (and what we believe) with our actions, that’s where the magic happens, and we create powerful forward momentum for ourselves and our families.
4. Collect Inspiration
If you’re going to move toward something new rather than backward toward what is familiar, it takes nurturing a creative, growth-mindset. One way to jumpstart a new path for your family is to search around you, online, in magazines and books for visual inspiration and quotes or words that motivate. Find other families that are living the way you would like to and glean ideas from the path they have already forged. There’s no need to reinvent the wheel, but do jot down an glimmers of possibilities for your family that come to mind as you go through this process; there are no bad ideas.
5. Create a Vision Board
One of the best tools for visualizing your new direction is to create a Vision Board. This can be done on a bulletin board, a piece of posterboard, or even on your computer. I like gathering a stack of old magazines (seek out your library for used copies) and cutting out any photos that trigger an immediate feeling of joy, excitement, or curiosity. From there, arrange them on your board of choice and hang it in your home in a place that everyone can see. Some additional tips:
- Involve the whole family in the process and make it a collaborative effort
- Write your values and goals on the board for everyone to see daily
Although a new decade comes around every 10 years, the truth is that every day is an opportunity for a fresh start. When we wake up in the morning, we can decide if today is the day we move closer to our values-aligned and family dream-centered selves or stay stuck in the past. 2020 is the perfect time for you and your family to become what you believe is possible for yourselves, to create the home that best serves your needs, and grow closer together.
Which of these steps will you try first?